I seek your advice once again, Interwebnet friends.

PREAMBLE: The thing I like best about writing this blog is finding others with whom I can connect. These people are funny, observant, touching, and wonderful. People who are going through the same things that I am - or people who have already gone through those issues and have sage advice to give.

I think it's so cool that these strangers have become such a part of my day-to-day life that I think about their posts even when I am not sitting at the computer. I even recall their stories to my own friends and co-workers. (Proof: Megan, my boss was talking about an old dog he used to have and mentioned that "she could tell time, you know." And I replied, "Oh yeah, but was she psychic?")

PROBLEM: So, here's the issue that's been on my mind for months. I was in a friend's wedding last June. (Background: We've been friends since high school. I ended up in our hometown for college (minus freshman year) and she was about 2 hours away. I visited her several times. She made new friends there and one in particular became such a good friend that she was awarded Maid of Honor status. Anyway.)

After the wedding, we kept in touch the same amount that we had before. Before I came home for Christmas, she made a comment in an email that she "figured since you wrote on your blog now you didn't really email much anymore." Okay, fine, so I hadn't written in two weeks. But neither had she! And it's not like I write every detail of what's going on in my life on the blog! And why would she think that just because I write about some of my life on the blog that I wouldn't want to also hear what's up with her?

(Do you guys also have friends who think this way?)

Then, when I was home for the holidays she and her hubby were supposed to come out to hang out with me at a local bar but bailed because the hubby had something work-related that he had to have finished by an impending deadline. (She couldn't have come on her own? Ah, whatever.) So before I came back to DC, I went to their house and we sat around chatting for a couple hours.

Since that day, I've only received two emails from her. She had been hired for a new job in December and emailed some people her new work email address. The second and last email said that she couldn't see the vacation pictures I'd sent from our trip to Aruba, so could I send them to her other email address? I did. And that was the last I've heard from her.

Sent her an email one week after New Years to see how the job was going, fill her in on my life, and so on. No response.

Three weeks later, she missed my birthday. (Our birthdays are two weeks apart and she knows when it is.) So I sent her an email a week after that letting her know how things had been and yeah, I had a birthday and it was nice. Hope things are going well with you, hope to hear from you soon, etc. Nothing.

Then her birthday came. I decided to give her the benefit of the doubt. Maybe she's busy with the new job. I called her cell phone. It had been disconnected. I realized that I didn't have their new house's phone number, so I called my mother. She had sold them the house and would be sure to have it. Nope! She did not. So then she, familiar with my M.I.A. friend-situation, called some more of their friends to whom she had also sold houses. One of them did answer and gave my mother the new numbers.

Home number or cell number? Let's try the cell. People our age never go anywhere without their cell.

No answer. So I leave a message. "Hope you're having a nice birthday, haven't heard from you in a while, hope you're alright, hope to hear from you soon."

STILL NOTHING.

So as I am very bad with confrontation (my hands go cold and numb, my heart thumps in my chest, I hear the blood rushing in my ears, I feel like I am frozen in place), I am too scared to try the home number. Instead, I wrote her an email two weeks ago. I asked if something was wrong, stated that I'd like to try to make it right, and I sent it to her work and her personal email addresses.

The Hotmail account had been shut down.

And I got no response from the work address.

QUESTION: What would you guys do in this situation?? I know it's normal to drift away from friends as you grow up, but should I try harder? Get to the bottom of it and find out what the hell is going on? Or just figure that I've done plenty and that the ball is totally in her court at this point?

**UPDATE: Forgot to mention that her husband is a super nice guy. DEFINITELY could not picture him giving her false information or keeping her from me. He's not like that AT ALL. (Then again, another friend got married and her guy turned into a total effing psycho, but we think he may be schitzophrenic, so that's different. Don't worry, they're not together anymore. Sad but definitely for the best. He. Turned. Crazy. Anyway, I am 99.99% positive that this friend's hubby is not the cause of this drama.)